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blogger dinner + selling at avalon exchange

blogger dinner + selling at avalon exchange

As I've mentioned before, I'm lucky enough to be a part of a great group of local bloggers who meet regularly to catch up and talk life and blogging.

L to R: Liz @  Will There Be Cake , Sara @  Running from the Law,  Jessica @  I Want Adventure,  Alyssa @  My Husband's Watching TV While I'm Watching the Baby,  me, Lindsay @  Itz Linz , and Liz @  Ellie & Addie.   (Unfortunately, not able to be there was Meg @  Meg In Training )

L to R: Liz @ Will There Be Cake, Sara @ Running from the Law, Jessica @ I Want Adventure, Alyssa @ My Husband's Watching TV While I'm Watching the Baby, me, Lindsay @ Itz Linz, and Liz @ Ellie & Addie.  (Unfortunately, not able to be there was Meg @ Meg In Training)

We got together last week and most of the conversation revolved around pregnancy since five out of the seven of us who were there are pregnant! I'm telling you, there's something in the water. School administrators, you better hire extra kindergarten teachers for the fall of 2019!

Necklace - Avalon Exchange, sweater - thrifted, jeans- thrifted, boots - Steve Madden Intyce

I thrifted this J. Jill (I know, not a brand I thought I'd wear, but they have some cute things!) sweater at Savers. It's a shape that I love, and I don't have anything similar in a light color, however, it had several small stains. Luckily, even though the sweater is a cashmere blend (well, 95% cotton and 5% cashmere), it was machine washable. I took a chance on it and was glad I did since the stains came out with no problem.

I'm also wearing maternity jeans that I thrifted from Red Racks and altered. The ankles were a little more straight-leg than I preferred and so I just narrowed the leg from the knee down, a simple fix. These are from the brand Indigo Blue and they've been my favorites so far. I was lucky enough to find them right after Meg mentioned this brand in a comment on this post.
Not bad for $7.

st louis personal stylist

I got my necklace with store credit at Avalon Exchange. I often talk about cleaning out regularly and if you have clothes that are in great condition, but were just mistake purchases (see this post), it's great to try and get some money out of them. There are several higher end resale (Women's Closet Exchange) and consignment (Byrd) stores that I love, and eBay is always the best way to get the most money. However, if your items aren't a designer caliber and you don't have the time to spend listing things on eBay, Avalon is another good option. They will take items from Forever 21, H&M, Target, and even some vintage, if they are in great condition, the right season, and very current trends. Having said that, they are still very picky, and you have to go in knowing that they'll probably take 1-2 out of every 10 pieces you bring in. For the items they take, you get 30% of the price they'll sell the piece for in cash, or you can choose to get 45% of the price in store credit.  The cash amount is usually very small, so I often take the credit.

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Having store credit is great for those times when you are really feeling the shopping urge, but know that you shouldn't be spending any money. I don't always find something, but when I do (like the Jeffery Campbell snakeskin pumps above), I always feel so virtuous that I was able to get something nice from the act of cleaning out my closet.

How about you? Do you resell your clothes - and if so, how?

a closet filled with regrets

a closet filled with regrets

I posted last Monday about "mistake purchases". On Thursday, my friend Elise alerted me to an article that had just been published in the Wall Street Journal titled "A Closet Filled with Regrets". The summary for the article read "most people only wear 20% of the clothes in their closet". It made me wonder if there is a way we can change our behavior so that we stop contributing to the 80% we don't wear. I've devoted a lot of my energy throughout my adult life working on aspects of my behavior and personality through meditation, yoga, reading, and therapy. Why not apply it to this area of our lives as well?

It's helpful to know what triggers purchases that we end up not wearing. In the article, the people interviewed said things like, "Who knows, maybe I'll be able to make it work down the line" and "I'm holding out hope that I will feel sexy one night and have an event to wear it to". One man purchased pants with a vibrant print on them even though all of his shirts are also printed, leaving nothing to pair with the pants. He lets them take up space in his closet because they are "really nice quality." One woman in the article acknowledges when things don't work, but just doesn't get around to returning them. She then keeps the items out of guilt.

The most surprising statement from the article was this: "In fact, shoppers most regretted, over the long term, passing up an indulgence for something practical or less expensive, according to research in the Journal of Marketing Research in 2008." This explains how we feel when we see all the rarely worn $20 Target purchases hanging in our closet and wish we had saved for one special thing instead.

It's not all our fault. We are constantly pressured by retailers to act without thinking. A relatively recent example of this are "timed" sales that are designed to make you feel as though you're going to miss out on things if you don't buy them immediately. There are even countdown clocks on some of these sites. Other websites now tell you exactly how few of the item they have left in stock. There are constant notifications about discount codes that are only valid for one weekend. With all of these attempts to speed up the process, how can you be mindful about your purchases?

Think twice if you hear yourself say:

"I'll get this altered" (will you?)
"I don't like this detail, but maybe it won't bother me" (it will)
"It's not 'me' but it's a good deal" (even if it's free, if it's not you, you're not going to wear it)
"Maybe I can make it work" (unless you're Kate Moss you're probably not going to make it work)
"These shoes hurt just a little, but I'll break them in" (if they hurt in the store, it's only getting worse)
"They only have one left in my size! Must buy now!" (is that true?)

Mindful ways to prepare for temptation:

Have a wish list and stick to it
Avoid flash sales and unsubscribe from sale notification emails
Find ways to satisfy the shopping urge without spending a lot of money: go thrifting,
buy inexpensive accessories, or shop online and pin the items you like without buying them
Take advantage of sales and specials when you've been tracking something you want to buy,
not when the item is suggested to you by the sale

For what it's worth, I'm guilty of all of these triggers. Just this week I was swayed by a "last minute" sale at for 20% off any purchase. I bought several pairs of jeans to try. At least "quality dark skinny denim" was on my wish list, but I still felt a little manipulated. Because I often shop in thrift stores, the temptation I fall prey to is the "it's only $3, it's no big deal if it doesn't work". Actually, it takes time to bring that item into my closet, creates frustration when it doesn't work, requires energy to get rid of it, and even "only $3" adds up over time.

Just like the emotional work we do to control a temper or overreactions to stress, learning how to react to shopping triggers is a process. Over time, we can learn to pause before we buy. I'd love to start a discussion about this - what are your triggers? What purchases have you regretted? If you're a master of self-control, please share your wisdom!

mistake purchases

While I was visiting my sister recently, she made a comment referring to "mistake purchases" and I knew exactly what she meant. There are things that you try on and even though you have to make justifications, you buy anyway. Maybe you're bored or need a lift or you have sale brain. We all do it, the thing to do is admit it and move on - which means getting those things out of your closet. I spent most of yesterday listing some of my own mistake purchases on ebay.  I'm on a budget while still looking for some "wish list" items, so I could use the extra cash. All the pieces I'm selling are really great items, they just didn't work for me. The khaki trench is slightly too big for my frame, the navy dress is more "bombshell" or "american classic" than my style, the fuschia shift is a bit bright for me, etc, etc. If you're interested, here's the link to all of my listings.