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two easy ways to tie a scarf

two easy ways to tie a scarf

 

After “how do I wear ankle boots?”, the next most popular question among my clients is “how do I wear a scarf?”

As you know if you’ve read any of my other posts, I’m a simple outfit kind of gal. I like neutrals with a bit of interest. For me that interest usually comes in the form of a necklace or scarf. I’ll be honest, I get bored by my outfits sometimes. It’s usually at the point after I’ve gotten dressed, and I’m like “that’s it?” Then I remember scarves and I get happy again. Seriously, throw on a scarf with the most boring of outfits and all of a sudden, you’re cool.

Ok, but how do you tie it? And even before that, how do you pick the right one to buy? When buying a scarf, look for a few things. You want to make sure that the texture of the fabric is soft and malleable. If it’s a pattern that you like, but the fabric is stiff, it’s always going to feel awkward when you wear it. Case in point: last year’s blanket scarf trend. I’m sorry, but I don’t want to feel like a turtle trying to peek out from my shell! On the other hand, if it’s too lightweight, like silk or chiffon, it won’t stay where you want it and will slip around. Also, the width and shape are important. If it’s too narrow, you’ll get that early 2000s skinny scarf look. I like either a substantial rectangle (between 18-24 inches wide and 4-5 feet long) or a square. Here are two easy techniques to add to your scarf tying repertoire.

how to tie a scarf

1) Hold a rectangular scarf by the narrow end with both hands, one on each corner.

2) Drop one corner. This is important. If you just take the scarf and loop it without adding this tapered edge, you’ll get a chunky, blocky end to your scarf.

3) Use the hand that’s still holding a corner to pull the scarf around your neck and down in front.

4) Loop it back around the neck a second time.

5) Loosen the loop so it’s not snug against your neck.

6) Adjust.

how to tie a scarf

1) Hold up a large square scarf

2) Fold it in half diagonally, making a large triangle.

3) With the triangle pointing down, hold both ends and bring them up.

4) Pull the ends around your neck, swapping hands.

5) Pull ends back around to the front and tuck under the V that’s been created by the triangle of the scarf.

6) Adjust.

Just for fun, I made a couple of quick videos to show you how easy it is!

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 And hey, when in doubt, the infinity scarf is always a safe bet. ;)

 

transitional dressing: postpartum

transitional dressing: postpartum

Several of my friends are getting to the postpartum oh-shit-I'm-no-longer-pregnant-but-nothing-fits stage. Well, guess what? Nothing should fit. Anyone who says differently is delusional or had a very unique experience. You just grew a human with your body! I didn't fit back into my pre-pregnancy jeans until around 11 months postpartum and I'd say I'm pretty lucky. And it's not just your tummy that's different, your body is holding onto fat stores all over (this article explains why). Here's my advice (and I don't say this very often): buy new stuff. It's the only solution. You need real clothes for the size you are.

You don't have to go all out (and you probably don't have the time). Budget a small amount. As I mentioned in this post about transitional dressing, this is one time it's ok to buy clothes that are inexpensive. See this post for nursing basics and why you want to buy things that you don't care about getting ruined.

When I started looking for a few examples for this post, I got a little jealous. I honestly feel like there are better options now than there were for me last summer! At minimum, you should have 1 or 2 pairs of jeans or other bottoms, a few fun non-clingy tops, a couple of decent basic tees in neutrals to dress up with jewelry and scarves, and a couple of nursing friendly dresses. Leggings can still work when you add one of these tunics for a little polish.

Here are a few of my picks for an affordable, indestructible, nursing-friendly wardrobe. Click the arrow on the right for more. Anyone else care to share their experience or advice?

(These images are affiliate links, which generate a few cents for me when you click but don't cost anything for you)

 

cos stores review

cos stores review

Finding clothes that are casual, comfortable, and still a bit cool is hard. Some days I actually miss my office job (the grass is always greener, right?) because it gave me a chance to dress up. Not that I couldn't wear a belted pencil skirt and heels to Target or to dig around in a client's closet if I really wanted to, but, well, I don't want to quite that badly. But I still want to look cute, and not just in tee shirts!

During a conversation with one of my good friends who I've never met in person (what, you don't have those? thanks, internet), she recommended that I check out COS. I'd heard about this Swedish store (part of the same company as H&M) and remembered that they'd recently opened a store in NYC and started shipping to the US. Laura had visited the store and thought the clothes were decent quality, so I decided to check it out online. I really loved what I saw - clean lines, minimalist shapes, moderate prices. I ordered a truckload of things (when shopping online, always order a lot - multiple sizes, colors, etc, - you never know what's going to work) and ended up with two tops that go with my current uniform of top/skinny jeans/ankle boots. 

This winter, I'd been looking for things that are nursing-friendly, somewhat warm, and aren't too form fitting (thanks to my non-existent baby weight loss fitness regime). Even though I didn't want attention on my midsection, I still wanted something that fit in the shoulders and chest. Most of the tops I'd been finding were loose all over, with dropped shoulder seams that just made me look wider. By coincidence, these both have interesting back details - at top, a split back, and above, pleating. Also coincidentally, it seems I chose the same (Madewell) necklace to wear with them on different days. What can I say, it's a fave. I'm really happy with both tops, have worn them multiple times in the last few weeks, and got lots of people asking me where they were from. Here's the grey top above (on sale for a great price!). Unfortunately the charcoal top at the start of the post seems to no longer be available. As for sizing, one top is a S and one is a 6, and I'd say that's pretty true to American sizes for me right now, I'm usually between a S and M. You have to make a decision quickly, as you can only return items within 14 days, and unfortunately, the return shipping isn't included.

What do you guys think? Will you check out COS?

Edit: When I looked closely at my account info, it seems that I paid $6 shipping for my COS order and wasn't charged for return shipping, so I might be reading their policy incorrectly. Also, the jeans in the first pic are
great for moms or anyone else who doesn't want to show their tushie to the world - they're Old Navy Rockstar High Rise Super Skinny Jeans. And with that link, I now have to tell you there are affiliate links in this post. If you're not a blogger and are wondering what that means, it means that I make 5 cents anytime anyone clicks on the link. I've made $18.86 to date. Raking it in, I tell ya.